Wednesday, October 8, 2008

my wild colt

I've been worried about him.

He dances around like his pants are on fire. Every sentence ends with a somewhat maniacal laugh. He throws things, and climbs things, and runs through our house like a tumbleweed caught by an angry wind.

When he wants to be, he's brilliant. He designs and executes complicated mazes. He memorizes intriguing facts (spanish phrases, secrets of the solar system.) He organizes his sacred collectibles (Thomas the Tank Engine and friends) with passionate zeal. He goes to his room to pray his rosary in peace. He reads at a fourth grade level.

He's six years old. He's making me crazy.

I've searched "does my child have ADHD?" more than once.

I don't know if he does or not, but I suppose it doesn't matter.

He's my little bundle of feisty, joyful mayhem, and that's all that counts.

Today I received encouragement from an unlikely source: my fourth-grader's history supplement "George Washington's World."

It seems that young Abigail, future wife of John Adams, was a "high-spirited" child who couldn't follow her mother's directions and was often sent off to her grandparents because she was such a handful. (Wow, does that ever sound familiar.) Grandmother Quincy, in her wise old Quincy-esque way, gathered the young dear up in her arms, and declared her an absolute treasure. She and the mister took it upon themselves to school the young vixen, seeing potential genius where Mom saw problem child. (I just had to ask Luke how to spell genius, I swear, and he got it right.)

Grandma Q, where are you when I need you?!

Anyway, GW's World had an awesome quote about this feisty little girl that I liked so much I wrote it on my marker board and christened it quote of the day:

"Wild colts make the best horses."

Love it.

(By the way, upon realizing I used the adjective "feisty" twice in this post, I just asked my precious nine-year-old John for a synonym for feisty. His response? "Luke.")

Don't know if Grandma Quincy was hacking someone else's words, just know that I've claimed them as my salvation.

My Luke is a wild colt, to be sure. For a while I thought I had to break him, and now I'm not sure that's best. I think I just might have to patiently lead him around the stable a few thousand times, and then everything will be smooth sailing.

Right now he's reconstructing Bionicles (John helped me spell that one) to his specifications and watching "Myth Busters." He's pretty calm, but any second he might spin out of control like a spastic tornado. Soon I'll send him off to bed, and he'll bury his face in my neck and whisper "I love you, Mom. You're the best mom ever."

Usually, I don't believe him. Today I feel a bit more confident. I may not be the best mom ever, but I'm the best mom for this spicy little boy. My wild colt. He'll be the best horse, ever, guaranteed.


Luke said...

I'm not a little feisty boy. I'm a gentleman.

Soul Pockets said...

Oh I LOVE this post! I have a feisty colt myself. I too have searched ADHD websites many times in case I missed something the first 10 times I read about ADHD. I love the quote you used in this post. Thank goodness for husbands who can verify for their wives that yes, their son's behavior is normal. Oh and Luke you are a gentleman and wild colts do make the best horses!

Cassie said...

I have a wild colt as well, but I still am not feeling better because mine doesn't go pray his Rosary at all, much less by himself. I can't even get my almost 9 year old interested. Only my little girl, 20 months old, will sit with me and say Amen after each Hail Mary. I feel like a failure now... :-(

Cathy Adamkiewicz said...

Cassie, don't be silly. Luke prays one decade at most, and that's wehn he decides he wants to!
If you are setting an example for your kids they will certainly return to it.
99.9% of the time it is challenging to get the children to pray calmly. Every night Luke manipulates me during our prayers to say them his way, not mine!
You are doing an awesome job -- don't be discouraged!

Kim H. said...

Wow! That was a lovely post. I could so relate to that and I really liked your comment about you being the best Mommy for that little boy. I often feel that is the complete and total truth - it's wonderful to be able to recognize each and every child as a gift, regardless of their personalities or differences. You definitely sound like you are a wonderful, in-tune Mommy!