Tuesday, May 12, 2009
I'm having a bit of an identity crisis.
For over 22 years, I've been "Mom." I'm cool with that. I've kinda got this gig figured out.
But now, I'm someone new. I'm a grandmother. You know her, she's the old lady in the rocking chair, the one who only gets up to bake chocolate chip cookies.
Just kidding. I know that today's grandmothers are much hipper than that. When my own mom became a grandmother, at the age of 57, she had a full time professional job. She wore stylish clothes and earrings to work every day. She had two college graduates for children. She only baked cookies at Christmas.
As for me, the new grandmother?
I'm just not sure how to roll here.
How do you describe a grandmother like me? I'm not quite 57 (only 44, in fact.) And I don't bake cookies. Ever.
I've got two college grad children. But I've still got children at home, including two boys under the age of 10.
I've coined a name to describe my condition: I'm a "grandmom." I'm a grandma, yes, but I'm still totally in "Mom" mode.
I haven't mentioned that I'm got a few other roles as well. My husband might say he thinks I've forgotten him, but I am a wife, too. And I'm also a busy daughter to elderly parents.
I want to claim the maturity and wisdom that goes with the grandmother moniker, but I'm not quite ready to let go of being the young mom that I feel like. And when I spend time with my folks, well, then I feel like I'm 12 again.
So I'm in one of those "transition periods." I know where I've been, but I'm not quite sure where I'm going.
The good news is, I won't be lonely on the trip there. I've got plenty of companions on my journey. I just hope someone has remembered the diaper bag and has packed lots of snacks.
Any other "grandmoms" out there? How have you kept it all in balance?